At the recent Academy Awards, Will Smith slapped Chris Rock because of Rock’s comments about Smith’s wife. This shocking sight was viewed by 15 million people worldwide. Then Smith cursed Rock in front of the entire audience. His assault diverted attention from the fictional film King Richard where he starred as the father of Venus and Serena Williams.
Later, when Smith won the award for Best Actor, he apologized to the Academy (not Chris Rock) and rambled on about being a vessel, protecting his family, God and love.
Smith’s behavior is a bellwether of what’s going on in our society today. When we are unable to speak intelligently in the moment or take a time out, the tendency is to lash out with name-calling or violence. We see it in politics, which too often reduces negotiation to shouting matches, filled with accusations or lies and only serves to widen the divide between parties.
When we speak publicly, our reputation is at stake. It's critical to consider how we are being seen and perceived, even if we don’t have audiences of millions. How we conduct ourselves depends on our moral compass, as well as the event or institution hosting us. If we respond with vulgarity, we are opening the door for similar actions from others. When challenged, take a moment to pause and breathe. Be conscious of how you frame your words. The wrong response can haunt you for a lifetime.
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Well said. It is very important to understand that one action can cause considerable damage. But it is the collateral damage that lingers the most.